I don’t think you understand the meaning of submission

Every single day, I receive emails and phone calls from men saying “I want to submit to You Mistress”. But you know what? They’re all lies. All the men who say this to Me think they’re telling Me the truth. The problem is that they are lying to themselves before even lying to Me.

Getting your kicks by asking Me to go through a list of your kinks is not submission. Being needy and controlling is not submission. Getting angry and turning on Me, calling Me names when I refuse you is NOT submission.

In order to educate the masses, I have decided to explain exactly what submission is.

The Oxford Dictionary defines submission as follows:

The action of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person

I don’ think many of you have ever really taken the time to ponder on the meaning of the word. So maybe you should take a few minutes at some point today with a pen and a piece of paper, and write down your thoughts on what all this can mean. In the meantime, I will give you an explanation of what submission means to Me.

It takes a lot of resolve to truly submit to a Woman. Most men want to submit, but always have a little voice at the back of their head questioning what they are doing. The voice tells them that they know better than the Mistress. The voice tells them to distrust the Mistress. The voice tells them to manipulate the Mistress. This voice is the voice that keeps you from fully submitting.

Giving absolute power to another person is a very scary thing. Wholeheartedly putting your trust in a mere mortal is even scarier. But in order to submit, you need to go beyond those fears, and ride the wave. Of course every so often your Mistress will make a mistake and by doing so remind you that She is simply another mortal just like you. But you were the one who went to Her in the first place and offered Her your submission! How dare you question it at the first sign of humanity? Of course She is human! Despite the fact that you like to deify Us from afar, when you see all Our pictures on the internet, with perfect outfits and perfect make-up, We are real people with real flaws! It is completely foolish and immature of you to expect a Mistress to be faultless in real life. Male submission to a Female is not about the Woman ACTUALLY being a Goddess, it’s about you accepting to give Her that status. It’s about you adoring Her and trusting Her.

Even the most perfect of Women get periods, mood swings, moments of emotional irrationality and diarrhoea. If you want to submit to a Woman who never has any of those things, go to your local topshop and prostrate yourself in front of one of their plaster mannequins, because that is the closest that you are ever going to get to your fantasy. Speaking of fantasy, this is where you are all going very wrong. Almost all of you suffer from the “grass is greener” syndrome. You are searching for this idealised perfection which is presented to you in droves through the internet, and you skip from Woman to Woman, never being satisfied by any of Them, always hoping that the next one will be better. When you are serving one, suddenly, every other Mistress seems more attractive to you. Could you imagine if I was so fickle as you are? Wouldn’t it be pathetic?

Rather than looking at all the things that the Lady you are serving is not, try being grateful for all the things that She is. Until you can live in the moment, you will never know what it is to truly be alive. You will spend your life as a miserable worm, crawling fropm shoe to shoe in search of the perfect foot. You will be missing the point totally.

My personal slave has been serving Me for nearly 2 years now. We have been through thick and thin together. For the first year and a half, he battled with his submission. Every day there was something new that bothered him or unsettled him. First it was the way I capitalise Myself. Next, he had a rather long breakdown because he couldn’t work out what Our relationship actually was. After that, it was limits appearing right left and centre which had’t ever been there when we started. He was riddled with doubt about everything. It was all so new to him, and it was all very scary. He had been visiting Mistresses for years. He had plenty of experience and was very well trained. But he had been seeing these Ladies in order to satisfy his own personal needs. Even though the desire to submit burned bright within him, He had never been able to give in to it, and was still struggling to do so until not that long ago. Then, one day a month or two ago, everything just clicked into place.

What had changed? He had made a conscious decision to stop questioning things. He had made the decision to trust Me and obey Me. And I have never seen him happier than he is now. When a man listens to a Woman and yields to Her authority in his totality, he can finally find happiness.

Worshipping your Mistress as a Goddess does not mean showering Her with meaningless compliments.

Accept to no longer have a choice, accept to do as She orders, accept to treat Her like your superior. Learn to make Her proud as opposed to turning yourself into a snivelling grub in Her presence. Treat Her like the most important thing in your life. Trust Her to know better than you what is good for you. Have faith, and your life will become a fluid stream of joy.

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Here is a perfect example of true submission in a photograph that My slave went to the trouble to taking of himself in order to surprise Me. Notice the newspaper on the altar with the article about Me, and the general aesthetic qualities of the photograph


  • David Beeney

    This is such a fascinating and thought provoking article Mistress Evelyn. Thank You for writing it and share it with us. I will think about this very carefully. My initial thought is that true submission to a superior female is a beautiful thing, and Your slave has achieved a very positive state of mind. Thank You Mistress Evelyn.

    2nd August 2015 at 3:56 am
  • Brilliant blog entry, my friend.

    12th August 2015 at 9:45 am
  • Robert Jones

    Thank you for an eloquent and thoughtful piece on this widely misunderstood topic. I have also
    thought deeply about the issues you raise, and reached broadly similar conclusions, conclusions
    which often at odds with many of write-ups of D&s sessions that can be found on the internet.

    One point which you mentioned, but which I’d like to draw out in more detail is the whole business
    of submissives devaluing themselves, the whole “I’m a pathetic little worm, Mistress” scenario. If
    you believe this, what value can a mistress possibly place on your service, if you yourself value it
    so little?

    The difficulties with the idealised scenario you describe are to my mind twofold.

    Firstly, meaningful submission from a standing start takes time. A lot of time. To suggest that anyone
    can instantly submit to a stranger is ridiculous, there needs to be time for trust to build, for
    understanding to bloom, for shared experiences and trials to show each party the mettle of the
    other. You described the relationship with your own sub… and the key element was time.

    Which leads on to the second difficulty, which is pro-domming. It is difficult to see how the common
    experience and trust previously mentioned can be achieved in a pro-dom context. In addition to which
    there is the distorting element of the exchange of cash. One cannot help but feel that if both parties
    are equally emotionally committed to the relationship, the exchange of cash would be unnecessary.
    What is going on is ‘service topping’, there’s nothing wrong with this, but it’s not submission.

    Finally, and most importantly, I want to scream from the rooftops your point about appreciating what
    you have, rather than chasing what you don’t have. My lady, beautiful, radiant, sexy and cruel in perfect
    balance, laments that she does not have the powerful aura of some of the Dommes she has encountered.
    Well she does to me, in absolute spades… she is just perfect, because she is real! Sometimes she
    has doubts and insecurities, and it is I who hold her up, rather than her me, that is as it should be
    and I am proud to be the man she looks to for support. Sometimes her need is for a man first, and
    I am proud to be that man, but always underneath is my submission to her. Her control is the greatest
    gift she could ever give me, and she does so in abundance. And I love her for it.

    9th October 2015 at 8:33 pm
  • Divine Goddess Evilyne,

    Thank you for sharing this intellectual definition and synopsis of submission.

    From a conscious perspective I recognise the submissive male profile and the examples used in Your blog. In my case the ‘list of kinks’ is indicative of the services Your slave has to offer You, Goddess Evilyne.

    From a personal perspective, the overwhelming compulsion and desire to offer my mind, body, life, and soul to a Dominant Woman, to exist as Her branded property, cuckold, toilet and sacrificial slave, is a subconscious experience where absolute power is exchanged.

    my consensual submission and sacrificial aspirations start, exist and concludes for Your entertainment, Your amusement and Your satisfaction, Goddess Evilyne.

    Your slave,

    25th December 2016 at 11:56 pm
  • Nick

    Just wanted to say what a fantastic blog entry. Although I do not flit from Mistresses and have been serving my Mistress for coming up a year, but i do have those moments where I think treat me like this or do that to me etc and I try hard to stop those and think I am there for Her and Her needs. It’s an amazing feeling when I get trusted with a non femdom task or asked for advice etc.
    I will keep remembering look what I have and feel proud about that…

    22nd March 2018 at 12:35 pm
  • Jonathan

    Thank you Mistress for this wonderful bit of writing. My submissive journey has been a long one….more than twenty years….but it never stops evolving. Truth be told, I’m only now just starting to understand the difference between submitting, and my own desires to please myself. The urge to make a session with a Mistress about yourself, tick the boxes you want it to, is very strong. We turn up with our balls full, a head full of hyper-stimulated fantasies we’ve seen online, and an awareness of the money we’re spending. It’s easy to see how for so many men, the knowledge of our inferiority to women gets ignored or lost.

    Understanding what it means to submit, and starting to be able to do it…is a long and complex process, different for each man I imagine. I think the complexity is letting go of the ‘me’….it’s the inner battle of trying to ‘submit’ but always putting yourself before the Mistress. But, I can feel that I’m getting closer, and reading this article is so so helpful in that process.

    I’m very grateful for your generosity in sharing these thoughts…..one day I hope to have the opportunity, ability, and privilege of submitting to you.

    25th October 2018 at 3:57 pm

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