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How to prepare for a Session with a Dominatrix?

Going to see a Dominatrix can be a scary experience to build up to, so here is my step by step guide to preparing for your Femdom session with me at my London chambers.

So you’ve read my website, filled in my contact form, paid your deposit, and you now have a session with me booked into your diary. What next? Do you just turn up? Do you need to prepare anything? Should you get a full body wax, a prince Albert piercing and buy some pink satin knickers? WHAT ARE YOU SUPPOSED TO DO NOW???????? From the moment you have paid your deposit to the moment when you nervously kneel before me for the first time, here’s everything you need to know and do in order to fully and perfectly prepared.

So what now?

 

 

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Don’t forget to plan your journey!

Planning your trip: The deposit is paid, the confirmation email with my address received, you’ve just popped the date and time of our session in your diary, and now you’re about to turn off your computer. But not so fast! Before you press sleep, open google maps and plan your trip now. Are you going to drive or take public transport? If you are driving, be aware that my playspace is in an area with very limited parking spaces, so head to justpark.com to book a local parking space now. Whether you are coming by car, taxi or public transport, do plan to arrive at least 30 minutes early. London traffic and trains can be very unpredictable and just like when you go to a therapist, if you are late, that time will be docked from your session. So plan to arrive nice and early, and bring a book or a magazine.  There are plenty of lovely little coffee shops in the area where you can relax before knocking on my door.

 

 

 

Getting in the zone

Mental preparation: Whether there are 3 days left until your session or a whole month is still to go, make sure you take the time to mentally prepare for what is to come. It is important that you work yourself up into being in the zone on the day because it will make your session that much more memorable. As much as I try, there’s only a certain amount I can do during our time together. The rest is down to you. If you don’t get into your role, then all my efforts to create an experience for you will be in vain. So take a little time each day in the lead up to your session to indulge in your fantasies. Whether it be by watching some of my clips, or even doing a bit of personal play by yourself. You might also want to check at the bottom of my website to see if I am online on Adultwork.com. We can then have some fun kinky cam chat in preparation for your session. If you can work every day on getting yourself into that kinky mind space in the lead up to your visit to my chambers, then on the day, you’ll slip into the zone with no trouble at all.

 

 

 

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Putting in the effort: It’s always worth making an effort to be in my good books. I look very favourably upon submissives who put the time and effort into doing their research and turn up with a well thought out gift in hand. Obviously, since we are not intimately acquainted. it might prove quite daunting for you to think of an appropriate gift for me. That’s why I have put together a handy guide for you. Do also make sure in advance that you have a nice white envelope to present your tribute in. It’s the little things that count.

 

 

 

For peace of mind, pack the night before.

The day before: If you are planning on visiting me for a session involving anal play, it might not be a bad idea to lighten up your diet for the 48 hours preceding your visit. Avoid dairy and meats, and try to stick to a veggie diet if you can. This will make preparation on the day much easier. I would also recommend that whatever you are coming to see me for, you cease masturbation 24-48 hours before visiting. Withholding from sexy time with yourself will make you all the more horny and ready to be used for my wicked ways. The day before your session, you should receive an email from me asking you to confirm your attendance the next day. If for any reason you can now no longer make your appointment, please do not simply ignore my email.  If you respond to let me know that you can no longer make the appointment, then you will be allowed to re-book, whereas if you do not respond to my email, you will completely lose your deposit and be expected to pay the full tribute in advance if you want to re-book.  Before going to bed, lay out your clothes for the next day and pack your bag with whatever you might need. Do make an effort with your outfit, after all, I am putting in up to an hour of effort to make myself ready for you, so I will definitely appreciate it if you make the effort to put on a suit. If you are coming to see me for a scat session, it’s a good idea to have a little toiletry bag with you. As much as I do provide everything that you might require for a post toilet servitude clean up, nothing beats having your own deodorant, cologne etc. If you have personal toys or outfits you want to bring with you, pack those too. You’ll be cursing yourself the next day if you left in a rush and forgot them. If you are visiting me for an overnight session, you might want to bring a change of clothes as well. Once your bag is all packed, double check it to make sure you have forgotten nothing. Now you can rest easy and get a good night’s sleep.

 

 

However excited you are, do not do this.

D-Day: Today is the big day. You’ve just woken up and it suddenly dawns on you that in a few hours you will be totally under my power. So first thing is first, resist the urge to have a cheeky wank! Save it for later. However long you have before seeing me, make sure that you are up early enough to be able to take your time in the final preparations before your session. The worst thing you could possibly do is rush or run late. You don’t want to be stressed. If you are a toilet slave, please abstain from eating. We want your appetite to be at its maximum so that you will greedily consume my Kaviar. Make sure that you are freshly shaven, nice and close. If you have any stubble, you will forfeit the privilege of being allowed anywhere near my arse. ‘But, why?’ you ask. Because nobody wants carpet burn between their arse cheeks. Trust me… NOBODY.
If the order of the day is the Edge of Orgasm game, then you might want to play Russian Roulette and edge yourself once or twice in the morning, but I am warning you…. I can not be held responsible for the consequences of such dangerous behaviour! 😉 I would however recommend shaving your bits to allow for better adherence of the vacuum bed/venus2000 during play. Whatever you are coming to see me for, do make sure that if you can, you shave your bits and arse crack, as it’s so much nicer for me to look at that way. For those of you who are planning on some anal fun, here’s a handy guide in pictures on how to clean yourself out properly in preparation fro your session, courtesy of @BlindJaw . Click on the thumbnails to open the images in new tabs.

 

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After cleaning your arsehole, why not prepare it for size too? Try slipping a butt plug up there and wearing it on the journey to my chambers. Not only will it help get you into a super kinky headspace, but it will also nicely dilate your anus ready for some dirty fun.

So now that you are sparkling clean and glitteringly beautiful, pick up your bag and head on over into East London! As mentioned above, give yourself plenty of time to arrive early, that way you will avoid stress. Once you have arrived, head to a nearby establishment to have a drink or grab a bite to eat while you wait, and allow yourself to unwind. You’ve made it and you are minutes away from kneeling at my feet! Whatever you do, do not loiter outside my playspace looking like a sweaty mess. Come to my door at exactly the specified time, and ring the doorbell to be let in. Do not say a word until you are inside my space, through the curtain and down the stairs, at which point, when you are kneeling on the ground at my feet and I am towering above you in all my might, you will be very glad that you put in all the effort that you did.

 

5 Comments
  • Liam ryan
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    Thank you very much Mistress for sharing. I shave most of my body. I love being clean an as perfect as I can be. As every slave/sub should! I love to make a massive effort. It would be rude not too. … And I’m a bit of kiss arse.

    I trully worship femininity. I envy it. I adore it. I appreciate it so much more them some men. They are trully Goddesses in my eyes. The only gods that are worth worshipping. And im am so glad iv found my place and purpose 🙂

    I would like to write you a full Introduction about myself by email, if that’s Ok Mistress?

    I am totally smitten with you already.. your voice is soothing. Calming and relaxing.. I like that your realistic. An that you can be kind 🙂

    6th September 2017 at 4:39 am
  • Really good sensible advice. The other addition might be to wear a cock cage both for 24 hours before your visit and on arrival. The key goes to Mistress on arrival. Mistress can then decide when or whether you merit release.

    16th September 2017 at 5:57 pm

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